When I started pursuing minimalism a few years ago, I had some ideas of what I thought it would do to my life. I had done my research. It was going to help me keep my home cleaner, save me money, let me have time to do all the other things I wanted to do… I had it all planned out. I knew exactly what my life as a minimalist was going to look like.
Or, I thought I did.
Nothing ever turns out quite the way we think it will. And while many of my assumptions of what minimalism would do for me turned out to be true, there were a lot of unexpected changes that happened in my life and in my mind.
Don’t get me wrong, they are all good things! Just not what I expected.
I have a better appreciation of white space and silence.
When I first moved into my house, the thought of any space being empty really bothered me. If there was empty wall space, I filled it. Unused room on a bookshelf? I’d get something to put there. Any available space needed to have something in it. A full house was a cozy house, right?
Now, having blank space in the house is something that I find soothing. Exactly the opposite of how I used to be.
Another thing that bothered me was silence. I always had to have music playing, or the tv on in the background. There had to be noise or I was uncomfortable. But why? This habit is something I now know was contributing to my stress level.
I am an introvert. And even though I knew that then, I didn’t know how important silence was to my mental and emotional well-being.
The more I decluttered, the more I found comfort in the white space, and in the silence.
I am much calmer.
I’m sure this has everything to do with not feeling like I have to be running around cleaning all the time. There were days when I would dread coming home from work because all I could think about was the mess and the long do-to list I had. How sad is that? No one should ever dread going home.
But since I’ve decluttered and embraced a more minimal lifestyle, my home has become my safe place. It is my escape.
Now, I still have chores and things I have to do at home, but they have become much fewer. And they also became easier once I got rid of all my stuff. So now when I come home, I’m able to have time to just relax. And I’m ok with slowing down and relaxing. I don’t feel the need to rush to get things done.
I no longer have the desire or need to touch things while I shop.
Yup, I was one of those people. One step into a store and I would have the overwhelming need to touch every. single. thing. Clothes were the worst. I had to feel everything, even if I wasn’t interested in buying it.
I’m not sure what exactly brought about the change. But I’ve noticed that since I no longer have things high on my priority list, since I’ve found that things don’t make me happy, I have no desire to touch anything when I’m out shopping. If I see something I think I might purchase, that is the only time I’ll pick it up.
I’m still unsure what that even means. But I find it to be a really interesting side effect of my minimalist lifestyle.
My priorities have changed drastically.
When I first started playing around with the idea of minimalism, I was drawn to the idea of spending less time cleaning. Not so I could have more time to relax, but so I would have more time to pack even more things into my already busy schedule.
I wanted to do more things. I wanted to be busier. Because I thought busy meant I was living a productive and full life.
Minimalism taught me the opposite. I don’t have to do everything. And I don’t even want to anymore. I’ve become very selective about what I spend my time doing. I have fewer hobbies than I used to. I only do the things I really love now. And I have fewer social obligations than I used to, because I learned that I need more time alone than I thought I did.
I no longer strive to be busy.
I ask “why” more often than I ever have.
I’ve never been one to ask a lot of questions. I mostly just accepted how things where and never questioned why they had to be that way. I also never questioned why I needed anything.
That is so different from how I am now. I question everything. Every purchase, every gift, every social event. Why? Why do I need this in my life? What value will it add to my life? Is it worth the money I spend on it? Is it worth my financial freedom? How long could I live without it?
Minimalism has caused me to become so much more intentional about every aspect of my life. Which is exactly what it’s supposed to do. The reason this was unexpected is because I had thought I already was being intentional about my life.
I take better care of myself.
When I started having more time to slow down and rest, that’s when I started realizing how deeply exhausted I was. I started paying more attention to the things my body was telling me, and it was telling me to take better care of myself.
Because I’m more intentional, I make better choices for myself. I let myself stay home instead of going out with friends if I’m feeling too tired. More fruits and vegetables find their way into my shopping cart at the store. I actually go to bed when I’m tired, instead of saying “I just need to finish this list of things.”
And the result? I feel so much better. Now, I still have days when I feel tired and exhausted, but I’m more prepared to take care of myself during those times. I’ve learned better how to cope with my overwhelming emotions.
When we have space in our lives, we can get to know ourselves so much better. We get to know so much better what our needs really are. And that is the first, and most important, step in learning how to take care of ourselves.
I’m more present in my daily life.
All of the things listed above have come together and resulted in me being more present in my daily life. Because I have learned to slow down and be intentional, I am so much more mindful of what is going on around me. Now, I sit and drink in my surroundings.
I didn’t expect any of these things to happen when I adopted minimalism. I thought I’d be in a near-empty house, spending all my free time running around with friends or doing one of the dozens of hobbies I had. Instead, I’ve found a slow, intentional, and deeply relaxing and fulfilling life. And I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
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